a blog about Kilt and her kids plus Trouble our JRT mascot.

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Sequim, Washington, United States

Sunday, November 26, 2017

Long time, No post

Good or bad, I'm back.
The dogs and I are still upright.  None of us are without our problems, but I think I can speak for all of us, we are enjoying life, just the same.
The rainy season is upon us.  Hence; the 'minion' mushroom family on my walkway.

Shaggy Mane mushrooms (the devil made me do it)

You ask, what the heck is that?  It's what all physicians should be prescribing.  Get OUTSIDE for at least 30 min. a day X 5 days a week.  Anxious?  Depressed?  Prescribing drugs usually is not the answer.  Eco-therapy is.  I find when I am walking miles with my furry friends, I smile the WHOLE time.  Someone would have a hard time wiping the grin off my face.
Need an attitude adjustment?  Eco-therapy could be your answer.  It clears your mind and you will sleep better.  Plus, I meet the nicest people on my walks.  Even if I walk the same path over and over, I still find things I hadn't seen before.  My sled team pulls me along at a pretty fast clip.
I carry cookies when we see bicyclers, people, dogs, etc.  Everybody remarks how well behaved my dogs are, and for the most part they are right.

The girls take a break on their 4 mile walk.

We had two early snows in November.  Of course, sledding was foremost in my mind.  I actually had someone to go sledding with this year.  I have met a gentleman friend that makes me laugh.  He has Border Collies and an Italian Greyhound.  He is a photographer and is as active as I am.  He lives close by.  His name is Ken.  We like a lot of the same things.  It is so nice to have a companion who is kind and funny during a very lonely time for me going through the divorce.

Sol Duc, taking photos of the salmon going upstream

A cold hummingbird.  I have taken their feeder down for the winter.

Ken, with 2 of mine and 2 of his :)

My neighbors invited Ken and me to Thanksgiving with them at Lake Crescent.  It was a magnificent day.  It was good company and good food.  The scenery was spectacular with even an elk herd along the 101 on the way home.

Kilt is 13 now.  I'm about to turn 68.  Where does the time go?
Kilt pretty much accompanies me wherever I go these days.

Sometimes when the chips are down, pick yourself up, and get out of the house.  Being reclusive is not the answer.  
I am still volunteering at the Chamber of Commerce Visitor Center.  I am also volunteering once or twice a month at the Free Medical Clinic in Sequim.  I still meet up with my crazy and fun friends in the breakfast club. It keeps me connected with very caring people. It makes me appreciate what I have.  It makes me want to give back to my community.  

After 35 years of marriage, now in the throes of divorce, I know I will never remarry.  The hurt was just too much.  That doesn't mean I won't let companionship into my life.  I'm a very social person. I try not to be remorseful.  People do what they need to do, I guess.  Hurting others is not in MY book of life.

I am now looking forward to Christmas.  I love the holidays.  My son will be coming up for Christmas.  I am very much looking forward to seeing him and Maxine.

ENJOY the Holidays!

Wednesday, June 14, 2017


Oh, lucky me to be so fortunate to have so  many "close" friends.  What a wonderful time I had with Mel and Dr. Pam on Vashon Island.  The first B and B had a spectacular view of the water and beach access.  But, it was concrete, old wood, and metal inside.  It lacked any sort of comfiness.  The blankets, pillows, etc. were scratchy and starched.  Everything in the AirBNB was cheaply done without thought for comfort.
The one night Air BNB we spent in the forest, was immaculately decorated for comfort, convenience and relaxation.  Plus, our host made us raspberry scones because she knew we were getting up early for a handlers meeting.  Walking trails were close by.  It was lovely. (And, less expensive)  Hard to tell what you are getting when you are looking on line.  Always a surprise, sometimes pleasant, sometimes, not so pleasant.
But, I always know what I am getting in the way of FRIENDSHIP.  Good times prevailed.  We laughed long and hard, we ate well, and we visited as fast as we could talk.  This was Dr. Pam's first open field trial with Fly. They got to the top and back to the post all 3 times.  Champ got around a couple of times, but sloppily with no stops until close to me at the post.
There is always a bit of a let down when my guests leave, but now I will look forward to my  brother arriving over what would have been our Pop's 100th birthday on July 1st.  Here's to you Dad!

                                                                           Handler's meeting
                                                Hurricane Ridge with Yoko and half sister, Fly
                                                                         Moi on the Ridge
                                                     Kilt on the right with some of her kids
                                                              Champ on the cross drive
                                                       Being silly, Mel and Pam
                               Pam getting ready to run with a couple of shots of gin, LOL
                                Lake Crescent  Sister and brother, Fly and Champ
                        Fly convincing a black faced sheep to get moving with the rest of the group
                                                Girl bagpipers at the Vashon lunch break
                                     Champ visiting Carolynn Harwell's lambs in Enumclaw
                            Vashon island Sheepdog Classic, one of my top favorite trials

Wednesday, May 31, 2017


An aptitude for making desirable discoveries by accident.

I believe that sums up my life, certainly it has become more clearly apparent after moving to Sequim.

I more often than not appear to be in the right place at the right time.  Is that my woman's intuition or is that fate?  One thing I have learned is to listen to my inner voice.

Can I control my destiny?  I'm not sure about that.  I did make the right move to Sequim.  I knew where I would be moving to for over 20 years.

I know I cannot control how other people feel or their level of commitment.  If I would trust my gut a bit more I wouldn't end up hurt.  It pays to listen to your inner voice.  I have found that it is usually correct.  It has taken me almost my whole life to trust that voice :)

I make friends easily and I cherish dear friendships, whether just chance meetings or lifelong friendships.  I have a few long time boyfriends, but most of my friends are women.  I find that I am being introduced to quite a few female partnerships of late.

What do I make of that?  If someone brings you happiness, I'm all for it.  Yes, there is always the chance of being hurt, but love and companionship are worth taking the risk.  I feel women are more honest and open.  Not all, but most.

Where am I going with this?  I'm not sure.  But, I want to let those special women and men in my life know how much their 'caring' has meant to me, especially with the pending divorce.  Heartbreak is heartbreak.  We have all been there.  Those that have taken the time to call or privately message me, or have sent cards, I want you to know I appreciate you.


I leave you with my daily Buddha quote of the morning:

"It is all up to us.  We are the ones who have to keep looking at our thoughts, looking for the nature of our mind.  There is nobody else in control of our lives, our experiences, our freedom or our bondage."

Thursday, May 18, 2017

Letting Go

A friend sent me some thoughts on "letting go..."

I have forgiven myself for being dense about my relationship that spanned almost 4 decades.  Dense as in playing the nursing role of the savior without regard for MY feelings.
I have forgiven my husband.

Denial Anger Bargaining Depression and Acceptance

I think I can honestly say I'm through the first 3 steps.  I'm somewhere in between depression and acceptance.  It's hard to "accept" when you are in the throes of a divorce.

I will be able to truly "Let Go" when all of this courtroom crap is over.  So forgive me, I'm a blogger. I journal.  It makes me feel better and hopefully, it will help someone else along the way.

I take good care of myself.  I manage my health and my dogs the best as I can.  And, I'm still darn happy to wake up every morning in this wonderful place where I live.